ABILITY360 has programs to help you learn self-advocacy skills
We provide monthly advocacy-related workshops, where together, people can learn self-advocacy skills and how the various systems work. We usually provide two advocacy-related workshops each month. Check it out in this month’s Ability360 Events Calendar.
Peer Mentor Volunteers
Individuals can work with a Peer Mentor volunteer to learn advocacy skills – someone who can go along with them, cheer them on and practice with them ahead of time what they want to say and do on their own behalf. The mentor might help them write letters to their legislators, or to their doctor. Request a Peer Mentor.
Trainings in Self-Advocacy for Persons with Developmental Disabilities
Self-advocacy skills for people with developmental disabilities are very important. Ability360’s This is My Life (TIML) program provides free training, which encourages people with developmental disabilities to speak up so they can make more life choices. This is My Life.
• Don’t get mad – get passionate
• Don’t do it alone – take a friend (or three)
• Compromise is necessary – decide what is negotiable and what is not
• Choose your team. Often, we’ll speak up for someone else before we will speak up for ourselves – be a good manager, ask someone else to speak up for you if you can’t do it yourself – that’s still self-advocacy – you’re in charge – you choose who to help you.
• Rehearse what you want to say ahead of time, role-play with someone
• Figure out your strength or the role you’re comfortable with (i.e., go with someone else when they advocate first)
• Keep to the truth – don’t make things up – you need to be believable
• Don’t worry about knowing everything – it is OK to say “I don’t know either –let me look into that and get back to you.” Then do it, get help if you need to.
• With something little
• With something you care about
• Family may be the easiest or the hardest
• Just start
When dealing with people …
• Ask for their name
• Ask for their supervisor’s name
• Write it down
• Write it down in front of them if possible, so they know you are keeping track
Keep a journal of your actions:
• What you asked for
• What they said they would do – and by what date
• Or what they did to you that was inappropriate
Use basic assertiveness skills:
• Acknowledge their point of view
• State your own case
• Keep to the facts
• Don’t make it personal – keep to the issue
• Avoid name calling
• Use the “broken record” assertiveness technique – keep repeating what you want
• Avoid using “but”, and use “and” instead
HOW TO HANDLE VERBAL ATTACKS OR SCARY ADVOCACY SITUATIONS
These are suggestions from experienced self–advocates representing a variety of personality styles
• Bluff back – stand your ground
• Stay calm, talk softer, listen to their storm, let them wind down
• Keep to the facts
• Judge who you’re dealing with – different strokes for different folks
• If you are worried or afraid to meet with someone for fear of attack:
• Take someone with you;
• Take notes;
• Remember you’re as valuable as they are.
Follow-up with action later (i.e., write a letter, do what you said you would, etc.)