by William Oborne
Caregivers play an important and vital role in the lives of those they care for. As you care for yourself and others, here are a few caregiving “do’s and don’ts” you can use depending on your situation. It’s normal to not have all the answers for everything. With this post we hope to give you some ideas that you may have not considered.
No two situations are the same. With that in mind, please note the “do’s” and “don'ts” are not meant to be a one size fits all for caregiving in any way.
Do - Ask about preferences
Everyone has different likes and dislikes. As caregivers, it can be useful to ask questions to better understand the needs of the person receiving the care. Do this before taking action so you can meet their needs. By asking questions, it will be easier to connect with the person you care for.
In relationships, people seek connection. It’s important to take time to learn about the people we care for and ask them questions about their past experiences and future hopes.
Don’t - Make choices for them
It's important to remember that the people we care for have their own wants, desires and to make their own decisions. Embracing these decisions is a key way to support those that you care for.
Do - Encourage Independent Decision Making
It’s important for the person in our care to be independent and make their own decisions. Doing so promotes self-determination and allows them to learn and grow from different experiences.
However, as they make independent decisions, help them learn it is OK to make mistakes. Be there for them if they are in need.
Don’t - Take away independence
It's important to encourage the people we care for to be independent. We do not want to assume they need help with everyday tasks. However, if they do need help, we're there for them.
Do - Show Patience
When the person you care for is doing an important task or activity, show patience and give them a moment to get comfortable. This helps build confidence and shows understanding.
Don’t - Ignore behavioral and emotional changes
If the person you care for shows changes in their behavior and their emotions, it's important to report it quickly. Supporting and being there for the people you care for is important. But remember, you’re not a therapist.
Do - Expect the unexpected
Every day brings new joys and challenges. What worked last week may not work today. People often change their preferences over time. It’s important to allow for things to change and to expect the unexpected.
Don’t - Expect the status quo
Routines and patterns are never forever, especially in taking care of someone. Change is something to be mindful of as a caretaker.
Do - Stay in the loop
It's good to keep in mind what the schedule is for the person you're caring for. The type of assistance needed for one day can be different the next day.
Don’t - Overestimate
Don’t overestimate your physical abilities to help the person you care for. If you get physically hurt while helping the person you care for it could put them in a compromising position. It’s important to know your capabilities and limits. Asking for help is something everyone does.
Do - Listen
Make sure you hear and acknowledge what the person you care for is telling you. Being engaged and attentive is important.
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